The urge to text
Lonely nights turn into messages you can't take back. Most people don't need a lecture — they need a moment to pause.
for the days after a breakup
Tend to your heart, one gentle day at a time.
Tend is a breakup-recovery companion. It counts your no-contact days as a living sprout, keeps a private journal, and offers a gentle AI that helps you pause before you text your ex — and reflects back what you write, with care.
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Coming soon to iOS & Android
No shame, no streak alarms — just fresh pages.
why we're building Tend
A breakup is loudest at 2 a.m.
Counters that shame
Streak apps treat a slip-up as failure and reset you to zero. Recovery isn't a straight line, and the tools shouldn't pretend it is.
Feelings with nowhere to go
Writing helps, but a blank page can feel lonely. A kind reflection can help you notice how far you've already come.
what's inside
A warm scrapbook, not a dashboard
Every screen is designed to feel hand-placed and kind — pinned paper, washi tape, handwriting.
Your day count, as a living sprout
Every no-contact day is counted, and your sprout grows with the time you've spent in Tend. A gentle reset never shrinks it.
Should I text my ex?
Paste the message you want to send, answer three quick questions, and get a kind verdict: send, wait 24 hours, or don't send — with the reasons why.
Gentle AIA private journal that listens
Write or speak your thoughts. When you want one, Tend offers a short, gentle reflection on your entry.
Gentle AISee your journey take shape
A calendar of the days you held, keepsake stamps at 7, 14, 30 and 90 days, and a soft wave of your moods over time.
Gentle Reset, not failure
Reached out? It happens. Start a fresh count without guilt — your sprout, stamps and journal all stay.
Quiet reminders & widgets
An optional evening check-in, small notes at milestones, and a home-screen widget — never streak alarms.
AI that slows you down
A gentle AI companion for the hardest moments
Tend uses AI in two small, careful places — to help you pause before a message you might regret, and to reflect your words back with kindness.
Pause before you press send.
The Clarity Check reads the message you're tempted to send, along with how you're feeling, and answers like a steady friend. Practical messages get a green light. Lonely, late-night or angry ones get a softer suggestion to wait. Begging or hurtful ones get a clear “don't send.”
Okay to send
Maybe wait 24 hours
Don't send
Nothing you type is ever sent to your ex. The choice is always yours.
Feel heard after you write.
After a journal entry, Tend can offer a few gentle sentences: it names one feeling you wrote about, notices one small step you took, and leaves you with a soft question. No diagnosis, no lectures, no toxic positivity.
Asks first
Nothing goes to the AI until you agree. You can turn it off anytime in your profile.
Keeps nothing
Your text passes through our relay only to get a reply. Your name is never sent, and the relay stores nothing.
Steps aside when it matters
If words suggest someone may be in danger, Tend doesn't send them to the AI — it points to real helplines instead.
Lives on your phone
No account, no cloud copy. Your streak, journal and moods stay on your device, and you can export them anytime.
built for every day
Small, kind rituals that add up
- A one-tap mood check-in on the home screen.
- A daily line written for where you are in your journey.
- Tap any day on your calendar to revisit its mood and journal pages.
- Available in English and Vietnamese, with more languages to come.
simple and fair
Free at heart
The core of Tend is free forever. Tend Plus adds the gentle AI companion.
Tend
free forever
- No-contact day count & living sprout
- Mood check-ins and the full Insights journey
- Private text & voice journal
- Widgets, gentle reminders, data export
- 3 free tries of each AI feature
Tend Plus
with a 14-day free trial
- Unlimited “Should I text my ex?” checks
- A gentle AI reflection on every journal entry
- Supports an independent team building kinder tools
the people behind it
Tend is made by Tech3n
Tech3n is the company building Tend — a calmer, kinder way to get through a breakup, designed privacy-first from the very first line of code.
Questions, press or partnership? We'd love to hear from you.
tend.support@tech3n.com